Waiting For Your Spouse
I remember waiting for my husband and it seemed like 1000 years. I was totally done with dating. I had experienced my fair share of frogs. I would pray so hard for a husband. My goal was to convince the LORD that I was ready for marriage in so many ways. It was one summer afternoon, one of my clients invited me to a local church for a singles meeting. Initially, my response was no thank you; chillleee, I don’t do singles ministry, I’m not desperate, I’m good. She continues, Natasha the senior pastor will be there speaking and he’s normally not in attendance for those meetings. When she told me, he would be present speaking to the singles, I excitedly agreed to go. During the meeting, the pastor gave us a concise and savory memorandum. There were a couple jewels that changed my life. I had already stopped fornicaiting three years prior. I was already praying fervently for a husband. The first jewel he dropped on us was to write a concise list of what we desire in a husband. An example of one of the things on our list he commented, for example, on your list ask the LORD for someone handsome, he continued, it’s okay to tell the LORD you don’t want a ugly husband. The second jewel he shared with us was to determine a sacrifical time to pray for a husband. We were to fast by committing to a sacrifical utterly inconvient time and for me was it Saturday mornings at 5am. I worked on Saturday’s but didn’t have to arrive until 9am. My job was 9 minutes from my Downtown Dallas apartment. What I’m saying is I didn’t have to wake up until 8am to be on time for work. Getting up at 5am was a HUGE sacrifice as I never could go back to sleep.
One Friday evening I recall my best friend had come to spend the night with me. We typically would stay up late eating ice cream and talking all night whenever we spent time together. The next morning, I woke up and went to my prayer closet to pray, I came out around 6am. She woke up around 7am. I was sitting on my couch reading my Bible, one of the first things she said to me was, Natasha I was just in my phone deleting old phone numbers, I have the perfect man for you, you two will be a power couple. I said- hold on, no thank you, I’m waiting on the LORD, not interested. She said- Natasha, I promise ya’ll will be a power house, power couple, you two will be powerful together. After the compelling agremment she presented, I gave her the green light to give him my number. He called me the next day, we talked on the phone for about three months before meeting. When we finally met, we were inseparable. We meet in
I’m going to share a couple more jewels with you on what the LORD told me to do as I waited on my husband.
I sought GOD because he loved me. I wanted to know my maker! He created me and had plans for me before I was conceived so I drew near to God and he drew near to me.
I wrote down my vision. If marriage is a desire of yours, it is a desire of God’s will for you as well. Marriage is the first institution He created. Don’t let anyone else tell you differently. I wrote down my career plans, my plans as a wife and mother, workout plans. I was very specific. I said God I would like someone who loved you, who would love me as Christ loved the church, who was handsome, a hard worker, and ambitious.
I learned the power of Prayer. I prayed a lot. Prayer is communicating with GOD.
I learned everything about my maker Jehovah. Matthew 6:33 says seek ye first the kingdom of God and its righteousness and all these things will be added unto you.
Present your body as a living sacrifice holy and acceptable to God. Our body is the place where God lives. He will not live in a body that is fornicating. defiling her temple, having no regard for who and what she allows to be inserted into his/her body. Stop fornicating, workout, eat well physically and spiritually (read the word of God daily and apply it daily). Take care of your body. Who wants someone who doesn’t take care of their body? I made sure I never left the house looking raggedy. I looked fresh when I left for work or run errands, clean, smelled good and was approachable.
Look to Jehovah as your first husband. His word tells us that He is our husband and this is true. He loves us, died for us, pursues us relentlessly, he provides for us, we are the apple of his eyes, and he cleanses us by washing us with his word through scripture so we may live godly.
Make the cares of the Jehovah your priority and be holy both in body and spirit for scripture says the unmarried woman should be focused on the cares of the LORD. What does GOD care about? Learn and make it your care as well.
Hang with other godly women who truly love God and are walking in purity. If you’re hanging with women who are promiscuous, attending wild parties, getting drunk, and have no dignity, soon you will be doing all of the above. No matter how strong you think you are, if you are walking with bad company, you’re bad company. You are not that strong and disciplined. Those people have dysfunctional demonic spirits and sprits transfer. And they are will transfer to you. Scripture tells us don’t be mislead, bad company, rotts good morals. Do you know what rots means? It means, decay, deterioate, corrupt, decompose. Do you get the picture? You don’t stand a chance beacuse this is what our Master, GOD, ruler and creator of the world summons us to do. Deterioration happens over a period of time so even if you think you are being strong and have self-control, you are fooling yourself. There are demonic spirits out her studying every single move you are making and looking for a crack to come in. Trust and believe, they will find a crack if you keep hanging with ungodly company. Those demons have been practicing slipping through cracks for over 3000 years. And you think because you have treaded this world for 20, 30, 40, 50 years, you have it figured it out. Chillleeeee please! However, this is nothing to worry about, you just need to plan accordingly by choosing godly friends and being godly, walking in the ways of GOD.
I didn’t go searching for a man. Scripture says “He that finds a wife, finds favor with the LORD”. Scriptures does not say, she that finds a husband, it says he that finds a wife so it’s not your job to go and find him. You go practice the about plans GOD has outlined for you and be still and wait on the LORD.
And those are most of the things I was lead to do by GOD while waiting on the LORD. Apply GOD’S plan, don’t reinvent the wheel. He will blow your mind. By the way all 9 of those tips are scripture. If you would like a list of the scriptures, go to Instagram (mrsnatashabriggs) and comment 9 Tips of singles waiting for a husband on any photo.
Get intimate with the LORD. Go on a date with the GOD. Grab a blanket, a bluetooth speaker, lunch and go to the park. Listen to worship music and read the Bible.
Shalom,
Natasha Briggs