Here’s What I’ve Learned Doing Marriage God’s Way for 13 Years
When I learned marriage was the first establishment created by GOD, this concept radically altered my entire belief systems. GOD created mankind in His image and likeness. Which denotes GOD’s goal for mankind was to be a creative and covenant leader in the world.
GOD then immediately set the foundation of how marriage should be conducted and structured. GOD says a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined with his wife, they shall become one flesh.
I then asked GOD to teach me about marriage. I the studied the scriptures, underwent intensive counseling, and here’s what I learned…
God says a man shall leave his father and mother (Genesis 1:24a). Leave in English means depart, one definition says to disappear (this cracked me up lol 😂🤣). Leave in Greek means untie or break. A man is to break away from his mother and father’s house and begin his own journey with his wife. This can be very challenging if you didn’t grow up in a two parent and Christ centered household. Neither me nor my husband grew up in a Christ centered home. Marriage was non existent growing up. Our mother’s are still adjusting to this lifestyle. However, setting our marriage by God’s rules is what we’re dedicated to as it works. God word works!
A man shall cleave to his wife (Genesis 1:24b). Cleave means to stick together like glue. Cleaving literally means our cells should be split and bonded together. A cellular bonding should take place. I love how GOD paints a vivid portrait of what bonding looks like. Although we came out of our parents, we are no longer bound to them. We create our own world by putting each other first in every area.
I learned to not allow anyone to separate us. For scripture says what GOD has joined, let no one separate. If you married someone (a marriage is only honored by GOD between a born male and a female, all others are man made agreements which GOD doesn’t honor) the moment you included GOD, in your vows as a male and female, He joined you. I won’t allow anyone to separate us, not any man, woman, our kids, parents, siblings, friends, no one. I’m very adamant. This is very intentional and takes wisdom to implement. I try my best to explain this to family and friends, sometimes they are onboard and others are denied access.
Wives must respect their husbands (Ephesians 5:33b). Love is very tangible when respect is modeled. I deeply admire my husband. I honor and respect him as the priest of our home. This is something I’ve had to lean into the Lord to teach me regularly. We as women tend to be independent. Prayer and actions have worked miracles in me.
A wise woman builds her house but a foolish one pulls it down with her own hands (Proverbs 14:1). I’m careful of the words I speak to my husband. I keep a clean home by maintaining, improving both. I have not a lazy-bone in me. I’m also super intentional about my appearance and how I smell daily. 90% of the time, I look and smell like I stepped out of an elegant magazine.
The LORD said it’s not good for man to be alone, I will make him a suitable helper (Genesis 2:18). My confidence is derived from GOD. He placed me in a role that crowns creation. Therefore, if GOD put me in this position, He has fully equipped me with the proper equipment in EVERY area to be successful 😘. I perceived how intricate GOD was when creating my husband, the man. It’s an honor to help my husband be who GOD called him to be. I don’t take for granted that I need GOD’s guidance every day to make this work.
Pray continuously (1 Thessalonians 2:17). I cover my husband every day and night in prayer regarding every area of his life.
This is a quick synopsis of what God requires in marriage. It’s not to be viewed as a daunting checklist. I’ve leaned to embrace God’s guide any check the list off as I ask and trust GOD to grace me daily with the willingness to display His splendor through me in my marriage. Please let me know if this helped you. I’m praying for you.